This is an appeal against findings of sexual abuse made against a father and his teenage son in the course of care proceedings relating to that boy and separate care proceedings relating to the three children of a different family.
A few days ago one of my colleagues, who is a great teacher, wonderful mom, and all around awesome person sat down at our team meeting and said, "I want you to know that I am never using a behavior color chart again! And, it seems, her reason for saying it was not that different from my reason for letting those charts go.
Her own sweet first grader had come home from school the day before, completely crushed after being put on "red"on the color chart. A sweet boy who wants nothing more than to please his teacher and do the right thing at school.
He wanted so badly to behave. He wanted to please his teachers. He wanted mom and dad to be proud of him. But his impulsivity did not allow him to keep himself in check for the whole school day. That kindergarten year was one of the hardest years our family has endured.
It is utterly heartbreaking to hear your child say things like, "I hate myself. My teacher hates me. I began to look at my students through different eyes and imagine what they must be feeling.
I really had to stop and realize that my wishes for their classroom behavior were superceded by their own complicated lives.
They track behavior, but they do not change it. For kids who are not able to adhere to the cultural expectations of school, the chart can be absolutely demoralizing. And this seems to be mostly boys - hmmm. The chart makes the assumption, before the kid ever crosses the threshold of the classroom door, that he is going to misbehave.
I know many proponents of the charts say that some kids just need the reminder to get back on track. They see their clip moved and they want to get back on green. They need consequences for negative behavior. And the newer charts reward positive behavior.
It works for me and my kids like it. I hear and understand all of these beliefs - some of them are very valid. I held them, too. What will they take away from the experience? Kids do need reminders to stay on track.
They do need consequences for negative behavior, and we should reward positive behavior. But not by causing stress, worry, and shame.
The answer is actually a long one and is really a journey rather than an answer, but I would encourage you to look into some new ideas, see what else is out there, and give it a try: While it was oh-so difficult for me, I am so glad that I stepped out of my comfort zone!
A few years ago, my school decided to use the Responsive Classroom approach which changed my thinking completely about classroom discipline. There are other similar programs with similar tenets. This is just the one with which I am most familiar. The way that RC builds community, helps children internalize social skills, and responds to behavior is so powerful.
I will leave you with one idea that could possibly take the place of a clip chart move. This is not a traditional "Time Out".The Support Needs of Teenage Fathers Harald Breiding-Buss, Tyler Guise, Tony Scanlan, Terry Voice September Introduction - Why Supporting Teen. How has the No Child Left Behind (NCLB) Act affected student achievement?
This is no idle question, as the landmark federal law is long overdue for reauthorization. This must begin with a sober and honest look at the effects of the No Child Left Behind Act.
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The basket includes a mirror because sometimes it helps a kid to see the emotion on his own face in order to recognize it. There are squishy balls for squeezing the tension away, a few cue cards for self calming, and a timer to remind kids not to stay too long.